Tuesday, 12 May 2015

Incorporating family cultures and traditions

I have four beautiful children and although I am White British and my husband is Asian British his mother and father were from India and Pakistan. We often find that living in the United Kingdom and now the USA we subconsciously adopt a more Western lifestyle. This is what works for us, but I am aware that family traditions and Cultures are also very important to give the children a much wider diverse understanding of the world. In this blog I thought it would be fun to share with you some of the things we do as a family to bring a little East to our West.

Firstly we love to cook Indian sweets. There is a great simple recipe at 

We also love to play with henna designs, especially when we have some fun body paint. You can get ideas from the web at….

Dressing up is always fun and we can find many clothes that resemble Indian attire around the house. T – Towels make great head scarves and long T- shirts with leggings make brilliant shalwar kameez  (traditional Indian wear for men and women).

Coloring is a very much a favorite thing to do and I have coloring sheets from my books, Aisha the Indian Princess Series. Please enjoy a few pages to print.

I hope you enjoy these activities, see you again soon.

Aisha the Indian Princess......

Monday, 6 April 2015

Do I look like the nanny?

Today was the second time that my friend and I were asked 'are all these children yours?' I understand, we must look a little strange, two blonde English looking girls (women) with six children between us. All six children are mixed race, my four children are half Asian and my friend Rachel's two children are half West Indian. This always makes for great conversation and perhaps a few funny looks.

The first time this happened to us was when we had taken a trip to a park out of town. Whilst Rachel and I were busy chatting, probably putting the world to rights, a few dads had joined together and were looking strangely in our direction. We carried on regardless until one of the dads plucked up the courage to ask us 'er, are you the nannies?' Not shocked by the question, but more the approach we both looked at each other and laughed replying 'no, why do you ask' this left it up to him to expand on what he meant. A little bit wicked I know, but he did ask! The dad, embarrassed chuckled whilst apologizing, as he justified that our children didn't look a whole lot like us. At this point we let him off and laughed about the fact that this wasn't the first time we had been asked this question.

As we walked away we both talked about how that simple question raises many different issues and feelings around the subject of being a parent to mixed race children. If the children don't look like you is there a feeling of disconnection that comes from this? Is there a sub conscious need to have mini me's running about? Or is cultural diversity a more beautiful thing than a narcissistic need to emulate your own genetic make up. My friend regularly jokes that if her children are misbehaving in public she can look the other way an no one will know they are hers!

The funny thing is that our children do look like us. So the question is, do people see the child or see the color?

Thursday, 2 April 2015

Easter Bunny Garland

Today we made Easter Bunny Garlands. This simple idea is great to share with your toddlers. It can be as messy as you want, but we kept it quite clean with just crayons to decorate the bunnies. First of all you need the bunny you can find her at.

1) Print off 10 bunnies.

2) Decorate your bunnies however you want to. You could use glitter,  paint,  crayons, sparkly things....

3) Cut out your bunnies and use the eyes, nose, ears and teeth to help make the bunny look nice.

4) Thread the bunny ears one by one until you have a long row of bunnies all together.

5) Display bunnies wherever you want.

Friday, 20 March 2015

California baby.....

On the 11th January 2015 we moved the family to California. This is something that we had been planning for quite some time, although the reality of it actually happening sometimes faded into the background as it was often superseded by everyday life. We have 4 children, Aisha 7, Iqbal 6, Zidan 3 and Afiya 2 and me mum and dad too.
The ‘dream’ was to come to America and be like everyone else, be accepted, be happy as this is something that we struggled with where we were currently living.

We had visited California on many occasions looking for the right place to Live and finally last August we found it. What a beautiful place, we fell in love almost instantly. The house is nestled into the hills but also within walking distance to the town and there’s a bit of work to do, but not much…. I love it.

Why move so far you ask?

There are many reasons why we decided to move, but the main one was that we felt as a mixed race family we were not ‘accepted’ in the town where we lived. People would often say to me ‘oh really, you experience racism’ and the honest answer is yes, yes we did. My son was called a ‘chocolate face’ and  my husband was often abused in subtle ways. We figured that if we can live somewhere where your colour isn't the first thing you are judged on then that’s a no brainer. In California, no body looks at you because you have brown skin, people don’t see the colour and it’s so refreshing and great for the kids.

Friday, 13 March 2015

Where have you been?

Its been such a long time since I last wrote on here, so I thought I should explain...... (mainly to myself) In the last 2 months we have moved to the USA. A sleepy town in California called San Juan Capistrano. I will explain the move in a post and also the trials and tribulations of moving across the world with 4 children, but for now ill just say that we have settled in well and the children are happy. We are most definatly looking forward to our new lives here in the States......... tbc

Friday, 2 January 2015

Sleeping children

When my children sleep I watch their little faces light up in dreams. I wish I knew what was making them smile so much x